Wednesday, October 7, 2015

A Prelude to Change

So after a lot of thought, I have decided that I have not utilized my blog in the way I would like. Jared and I talked and I discovered I would be no use if I tried to do a blog that had some sort of theme. Life does not give us just one theme. Us being nerds will most definitely be in here, so will our successes, failures, our opinions & progress reports. 

There you have it, I am moving on with my blog without bounds.

Through the last month or so I have recognized how much I am on 3 electronic devices 70% of the days I am working. It simply makes no sense that I would have TV or music on, working on my computer, and playing a game or scrolling through Facebook on my phone. Since when does that make sense? Also almost all the time with family and friends, phones or computers are out and blocking this social vibe that I have been really craving. You know those times when you and your significant other go to a park with drinks, maybe food and just talk and people watch? Yeah, I miss that.

November 22nd through January 1st, Jared and I are going to try clearing out what we think have become impulses with our phones. 
For Me:
No Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Periscope, & Game Apps.
Also Phone on Airplane Mode @ Church.
For Jared:
No Facebook, Cheezburger, Reddit, Periscope & Game Apps. Also No Phone @ Church.

I am hoping this will let us connect more as a couple, strengthen our social skills & hopefully be able to make more friends in our ward, neighborhood & hopefully enjoy the time with family even more. We simply forget that face to face communication is so much better & that our voices give us the chance to use fluctuation& tone to give emotion and meaning to our words. Simply texting does not allow for easily understood humor, sarcasm, happiness, sadness & frustration. Often we misconstrue what others are trying to say. A phone call is better, but still we now have the trouble of communicating with those who do not like, understand & know how to talk over a phone. Face to face is simply the best.

I crave the days where it was okay to walk over to the neighbors house, knock on the door and ask a friend to play. Too often I see 4 yr olds on smart devices and I cringe at the thought that even if I teach my children to communicate, will their peers? Constantly I talk to single friends, frustrated with the dating scene because of the over use of technology. Jared and I met online. But Jared was the only one that replied to my short paragraph with 5 of his eloquent paragraphs. One month after this extensive conversation, we met. We simply did not have any problems keeping our phones in our pockets and having a thrilling, long & competent conversation. In fact Jared and I would talk for hours on our dates. This is apparently not found any more from what my friends have told me. Relationships cannot thrive or survive if you can not vocalize your needs, wants, emotions and goals!

I hope that somehow we can find this balance in life between technology and the beauty of conversation and being who we were created to be...social! Also I hope you enjoy seeing me grow as a complete amateur blogger!

So Say We All